I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened: Mark Twain.
We suffer more often in imagination than in reality. We need not be unhappy before the arrival of crisis; since there is every probability that the actual crisis may not acquire the epic proportion that was imagined within the four walls of our mind, or may never even get manifested in reality. We are in the very bad habit of exaggerating, or imagining, or anticipating, the worst.
There will be times when people will try to talk you into believing that you are unhappy. Well you are not supposed to believe what you hear but what you feel yourself, because you know your own affairs better than anyone else does.
You may say “How am I suppose to know whether my sufferings are real or imaginary?”
Here is the simple rule: we are tormented either by present things not turning out as per our expectation or by things that are yet to take place or by both. As to things present, if it doesn’t result into any bodily harm, there is absolutely nothing to worry. As to what may happen in the future, we need to consider whether our trepidation of future trouble are for sure. For it is more often the case that we are troubled by our imaginary apprehensions.
We tend to agree too quickly with what people say. As a result, we are often the victim of foolish rumours and their other relatives. We do not put to the test those things which cause our fear and we do not really examine into them. That is why no fear is so devastating and uncontrollable as panic fear. For other fears are groundless, but this fear is plain stupid.
There is absolutely no limit to our sorrows and sufferings, if we indulge our fears to the greatest possible extent. So what we can do is simply replace our fear with faith and witness the monumental change within us.
Let’s examine the things that we are putting off out of fear?
Usually, what we most fear doing is what we most need to do. That conversation with your old buddy, that call to your ex-girlfriend, whatever the action might be—it is fear of unknown outcomes that prevents us from doing what we need to do.
Define the worst case scenario, accept it, and do it anyway. Because what we fear doing most is usually what we most need to do . And there is saying that, a person’s success in life can usually be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have. Therefore, kindly resolve to do one thing every day that you fear most and experience the difference.
Some things torment us more than they ought; some torment us before they ought; and some torment us when they ought not to torment us at all.